Saturday, April 11, 2009

Women do you like it when your man brings you flowers or gifts after having a fight?

I%26#039;m just curiouse to know. I don%26#039;t like it because that and Valentines day are the only times i get flowers.


So now i asociate flowers with a fight. I would much rather the guy just tell me how sorry he is and show me through kindness rather then gifts and flowers. I just feel like he is trying to buy my forgiveness, and butter me up so he can avoide the issue and it will be all over. And if it happens again he thinks he can cover it up by buying more flowers, but then never discussing the problem and trying to change it.

Women do you like it when your man brings you flowers or gifts after having a fight?
I don%26#039;t think flowers should be given after a good fight or break up ....I love flowers ...but I would like them more any day /anytime . I have had a ton of KISS -AZZ flowers ,,,I have always told him I am not the flower/chocolate teddy bear recieving woman ..If your wrong and yo know it ,,leave me alone flowers or not ,,if I am really pissed off I have been known to throw the s*** out the window too !!!...but if a man loves you thats his way of trying ANYTHING !!
Reply:My husband and I have never had a %26quot;fight%26quot; so he has never had occasion to bring me flowers after one. He does bring me flowers about once a month %26quot;just because%26quot; and the florist he goes to asks him all the time %26quot;what did you do now?%26quot;. He just doesn%26#039;t understand why my husband would buy flowers when he has nothing to apologize for so I%26#039;m guessing most of his male customers give flowers after a fight. If we were to %26quot;fight%26quot; I would not want nor appreciate flowers from him as they would just remind me of the %26quot;fight%26quot; when I looked at them.
Reply:My husband used to give me flowers all the time ...Come to realize it was everytime he would be horrible to me and it was his way of being nice ... But the truth is ...everytime he was cheating with someone he became horrible to me ...The guilt ate him alive and so the flowers were....%26quot; I%26#039;m sorry %26quot;.. Go think about that one!!. Then ...he would expect me to keep thanking him like the flowers were such a wonderful gift .... All I wanted was his time and someone eles had that ....always!! Funny though ..today when another man gives me flowers its a good feeling ...
Reply:Hell No... This is what I would like.





Don%26#039;t repeat what the fight was about in the first place.


Show me that you care by not fighting but talking things out.


Treat me with respect and like an intelligent adult.


Go to anger management.





Buy me flowers for our Anniversary and Valentines day.





If you can do that..... I%26#039;ll love you forever.
Reply:No because it would have more meaning for me if he gave me flowers through the good times to. It%26#039;s a nice gesture and maybe his way of saying that he is sorry and that is good but... it%26#039;s when they give you that beautiful bouquet for no reason at all that a nicer reason is attached to them.
Reply:Cut the guy some slack. My fiance doesn%26#039;t do that. He buys flowers randomly %26amp; I don%26#039;t think I%26#039;ve ever received flowers because of an argument. But, some men are just totally inept at understanding what women want. It%26#039;s really not his fault. He%26#039;s not female %26amp; he can%26#039;t read your mind. I%26#039;m sure the last thing he%26#039;s thinking is that flowers will offend you. He%26#039;s doing what he has always heard (through movies, friends, etc) is the right thing to do. Give him a break.
Reply:I%26#039;m not a fan of %26quot;gifts%26quot; to smooth over a disagreement. Gifts should be %26quot;just because%26quot;. I agree with you that once a disagreement has been resolved the best way to show it is by treating the person well, not by %26quot;buying%26quot; their good graces again.
Reply:As a guy, this can be very true and you give a great point. My fiance persoanlly doesnt like flowers becuase %26quot; they are a waste of money and they dont last long%26quot;. Lol . Dont know if thats a good or a bad thing. I personally in past relationships would only give flowers on special occasionns.
Reply:I would rather my man gives me flowers on happy occasions! You are right, you are programmed now to dislike his gifts because you think there%26#039;s a motive behind his gift-giving. If you accept his gifts each time, nothing will change.
Reply:I used to date a guy that would do that. After I left that relationship I realized how abusive it was and the flowers/gifts were just his way of covering up his abuse in his own mind.





Good luck!
Reply:Nope. I don%26#039;t like it either. A fight is a fight and a gift is a gift for an occasion.
Reply:I agree, I would rather have the issue resolved than for him to give me flowers.
Reply:No i dont. He takes me out to eat some where to show me he is sorry. Men have problems.
Reply:that is another way of telling you that he is sorry
Reply:NOPE! He wants to fight with me..He can%26#039;t keep his crap! I don%26#039;t want it!
Reply:You are right if he is going to brin you flower then you should still sit down and talk about the problem.
Reply:Forget the gift. A firm apology will do the trick for me.
Reply:i%26#039;m just like you!!
Reply:I agree with you.



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